Going (to the) Home?

 

Going (to the) Home?

Decision has been made! Or has it? 100 years ago people weren’t fretting over finding a retirement community in which to spend their “golden” years. People assumed that they would wind up being burdens to their children. Oh no, we can’t be burdens! I ask why not? Like the children have never been burdens to us?! I don’t mean heavy, soul killing burdens just little ones to remind the kids that it isn’t always all about them. Actually, it isn’t fair to deny them the joy that comes from being of service.

Many of my friends are signing up for various communities and I’ve been thinking I should too. But where? I’ve been in love with Silicon Valley since I moved here almost 60 years ago. - before it was called that. And I still am. I’ve been in my house for almost 35 years and if anything I’m happier here than ever. My son and daughter-in-law would like me to move closer to them – I must admit this is flattering and……………..tempting. But it’s not here!

A cozy little place with everything taken care of and gourmet (we hope) meals provided. Lots of activities and groups of lovely of people with whom to socialize. Not to mentions endless bridge games. It all sounds heavenly and a little bit artificial and forced. I’m thinking that a little stress is not a bad thing – I think it can keep one sharp.

I have discovered I can find really solid reasons to not take an action if I don’t want to take that action. So here goes. You may not find these reasons solid, but please indulge me. I like to sleep in a cool breezy room and this is only possible with cross ventilation. Most apartments don’t provide that. Taking baths – yeah I know, this is not the current choice for bathing, however it’s my favorite place to be. Soaking in a tub filled with hot sudsy, SOFT water is a wonderful way to start the day. Most places don’t have soft water. Being able to be outside by myself and not dressed for the day is a luxury, I don’t want to give up. All small things in the big scheme, however small pleasures all together add joy to life – joie de vivre!

So, I think I’ve talked myself into staying where I am………….at least today. It’s time to pour a glass of wine and appreciate my solitude! Next week I may let Henry voice his opinion.